For days, I have wanted to get going already. Let’s get in the car and head west, what are we doing hanging around here? And this morning I realized why – I was avoiding the tearful goodbyes. It’s not that I don’t want to be here, it’s that I need to be somewhere else too. But the end date makes things so much more poignant. Over the last four days we are having to say goodbye to everyone we love in Ontario – knowing that visits and calls will not be as immediate as before.
At my wedding after the ceremony Toni (my mother-in-law) grabbed me by the hips and said to me “You two are right for each other. Be good to each other. Take care of each other.” It was the first time she had ever grabbed me by the hips – and I knew she was telling me something that meant a lot to her. This morning, when she did it again, I had to blink several times to hold back the tears – and I wasn’t entirely successful. “You’re doing this together. And that makes it right.” She said. My father-in-law hugged us both a little longer than usual.
We left them standing in the drive-way waving goodbye, looking a bit sadder than usual. They gave us a card to read on the way. Emile was driving so he asked me to read it aloud. And he knew I couldn’t do it for some time. Instead we sat quietly with our thoughts as we left St. Catharines behind us – both regretful of the moments we know we will miss but still certain of our decision to move to Vancouver together.
And then that evening a dinner with our friends in Huntsville to say our last goodbye to good friends there. And the night before with friends in St. Catharines. Friday night – Toronto friends. My heart tears a little with each hug, card and well wish. I want to stay, I want to go.
Tomorrow we start out, tomorrow we begin a long trip to a new start, but we still look backward. Muskoka is where we married, each found our career path and became part of a community as a couple.
September 4th, 2012 Extra-Ordinary: The selfless well wishes from family and friends who sadly know this is the right thing.