I received a text saying my husband invited someone for dinner the next night. This threw me into a little bit of a panic – plan these things ahead, thinking out menus, grocery shopping, pre-prepping food, cleaning. Everything is planned. So, this was hard on me. But then he said “Don’t worry about it, I’ve got it.”
Fine, I’m busy at work anyways. Carry on.
So when I got home, Emile announced that he was going to make either Butter Chicken or Pad Thai. I immediately tried to talk him out of butter chicken – afterall, neither of us have ever made it before and our guest was coming in less than 24 hours. We are out of control – there isn’t a plan for this!
But do you know what? – other than rice and curry powder (easily purchased downstairs) – I already had everything on hand to make butter chicken and a readily accessible cook book with an excellent recipe.
January 28th, 2013 Extra-Ordinary: It’s my planning and foresight and Emile’s spontaneity and willingness to try something new that works for us. And his butter chicken was really good too.
My husband and I are annoyed by one main trait in each other:
- Failure to make decisions or take of things and just to ride along letting someone else do all the planning and work.
- Complete disregard of basic things like turning off the energy sucking lights, or leaving the fridge open or running the water for no reason.
Try to guess who does what.
If we fight, I’d say its 80% because of one of these things. But recently, my husband has begun a campaign to address that which annoys me. For example, a couple of days ago, I said we needed to figure out a place to go for dinner with my aunt on friday night. Often, he would just throw out some suggestions and then leave the details to me. But this time, he did research and selected a place near by.
It was troubling because here he is making an effort to change his behavior that I’ve been telling him for years annoys me, but yet he selected an Indian restaurant. I don’t much like curry or warm yogurt, so I hesitated in agreeing. But I liked this new campaign of his, so I thought I’d better be supportive, so Sitar it was.
I skimmed the menu avoiding seafood, hot dishes with yogurt, curry and samosas (I needed to try something different). My aunt announced her selection of butter chicken, and that sounded pretty good in its description – when has butter or cream ever let any cuisine down?
November 16th, 2012 Extra-Ordinary: Listening to what my husband had to say led to an excellent meal. Damn it! I’m going to have to start turning off the lights.